Have you ever experienced the healing
power of sex before? Then you must be living in the past if you think
that sex has no other value apart from pleasure and procreation. Beyond
these, when you are depressed or suffer from neurosis, sex is a quick
and affordable therapy.
Many relationships have been spiced with
sex and love, and such testimony of romance is everywhere. A couple walk
to the altar hand in hand during daytime but by night time, they are
floating on cloud nine. Yet, a few weeks later, the initial rush of
romance would have dissolved and the world may not appear as rosy
anymore.
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Experts say love and romance have long
lasting effect, and that the best moments for couples are the first few
days into their marriage, partly because of the sexual experience. While
honeymoon period may only last for the first few months of a
relationship, love and romance can have long lasting positive effects, a
study has revealed.
It is a common saying that behind a great
man, who has achieved any great feat, is a woman somewhere. Beyond the
rhetoric, Sigmund Freud, an Austrian Neurologist, who became known as
the founding father of psychoanalysis, said any man who has achieved a
great feat has a woman that is activating his libido. He was of the
opinion that all the activities of human beings are dictated by libido, a
sexual drive.
One hindrance to such pleasant experience
is neurosis. You too may be suffering from it, as it cuts across our
daily living and easily accessible by people in this part of the world.
It is a relatively mild mental illness that is not caused by any organic
disease, but involves symptoms of stress, depression, anxiety,
obsessive behaviour, anxiety about one’s health, but not a radical loss
of touch with reality.
According to a recent research undertaken
by psychologists at the German Universities of Jena and Kassel, it was
revealed that being in a relationship can have a positive effect on
personality development in young adults, and even reduce neuroticism.
Researchers report on this finding in the online edition of the science magazine Journal of Personality.
One of the psychologists in the study,
Dr. Christine Finn, said neurotic people are relatively anxious,
insecure, and easily annoyed, and that they have a tendency towards
depression, often show low self-esteem and tend to be generally
dissatisfied with their lives.
“However, we were able to show that such
people become more stable in a love relationship, and that their
personality stabilises,” the psychologist says.
It was learnt that neurotic people
process influences from the outside world differently. Finn says that
they react more strongly to negative stimuli and have a tendency to
interpret ambiguous situations negatively instead of positively or
neutrally.
The scientists found that this tendency
gradually decreases over time when being in a romantic relationship, and
that the positive experiences and emotions gained by having a partner
change the personality, not directly but indirectly.
To put it more simply, love helps us to tackle life with more confidence instead of seeing things pessimistically straight away.
Just as a relationship that is marred
with fear and plight can be toxic to physical and mental health, the
feelings of love, being loved and enjoying sexual relationship have a
lot of medical or clinical indices that enhance mental and physical
health. So, the feelings of love, romance and the erotic feeling that we
have also have positive effect on the health generally.
Findings showed that there are hormones
of fear and plight, which are associated with when a supposedly good
relationship is estranged with hatred. Hence, the anxiety neurosis is
oftentimes a product of stress, and when the stress is released through a
romantic relationship, all the things about the romance, the talk,
touch and actual sex is therapeutic, which relieves anxiety neurosis.
In case you are neurotic, seeing as it is
not a terrible disease as many might have thought, romantic love can
just be the drug. When somebody you love looks you in the eye and talks
to you, you know how it feels. You feel good and on top of the world.
When people marry those who would make life difficult for them or
somebody they are not sexually attracted to, it makes them die young.
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