In our fast-paced, hectic lifestyle, it seems that the family meal
may become an endangered tradition. With children coming back from
school early and adults closing from their different places of work at
different time, most families often find
it very difficult to eat
together.
As hectic as our schedules can sometimes be, the family meal is a
good way to get everyone to keep in touch after a busy day and to share
upcoming family plans or events.
The family meal can also be a comforting ritual for parents with
young children as it gives them a sense of security. There has even been
research on the link between family meals with healthy child
development, better school performance, better nutrition and increased
consumption of fruit and vegetables.
Because of the importance of this, some families try to work towards
making time to eat as a family on a pre-designated day of the year.
Apart from the fact that eating together as a family strengthens the
love within the family, research has also shown that frequent family
dinners, like five or more a week, are associated with lower rates of
smoking, drinking, and illegal drug use in pre-teens and teenagers when
compared to families that eat together two or fewer times per week.
Even as older children’s schedules get more complicated, it is important to make an effort to eat meals together.
It has also been observed that children do better in school when they eat more meals with their parents and family.
Teenagers who eat dinner four or more times per week with their
families have higher academic performance compared with teenagers who
eat with their families two or fewer times per week.
Simon, a bachelor, said he tries as much as possible to eat together
with his family whenever he is with them. “The last time I travelled
home was during the Easter celebration and we had our meals together on
our dining table”.
Speaking on the importance of family eating together, he said, “It
increases the bond within the family, because it gives each member an
avenue to learn the likes and dislikes of one another. In some families,
there are people who don’t like salt, pepper and some other things like
that.”
Simon also added that eating together as a family creates avenues for
children to communicate with their parents on issues that are bothering
them, because they feel parents are more relaxed when they are eating.
According to him, “there is a bond that eating together enhances as
it is a good time for every member of the family to express themselves.
In my family, I feel freer to speak with my dad, because eating together
is like a communion. A family that eats together, prays together, stays
together forever.”
Bunmi Ojo, on her own part, said eating together breeds and
strengthens the love within the family, because members of any family
that does that have time to interact with each other. “I enjoy eating
with my family, because it gives me so much joy and strengthens the love
among us.”
Conversations during the meal provide opportunities for the family to
bond, plan, connect, and learn from one another. It’s a chance to share
information and news of the day, as well as give extra attention to
your children and teens. Family meals foster warmth, security and love,
as well as feelings of belonging. It can be a unifying experience for
all.
In addition, family mealtime is the perfect opportunity to display appropriate table manners, meal etiquette, and social skills.
Keep the mood light, relaxed, and loving. Try not to instruct or criticize – lead by example.
It has also been observed that meals prepared and eaten at home are
usually more nutritious and healthy. This is because efforts are made to
include additional nutrients such as fibre, calcium, vitamins A and C,
and foliate.
Home cooked meals are usually not fried or highly salted, plus soda
and sweetened beverage consumption is usually lower at the dinner table.
Most importantly is the fact that eating together gives children the
opportunity to be self sufficient in terms of knowing how to prepare
meals. Children today are missing out on the importance of knowing how
to plan and prepare meals.
Basic cooking, baking, and food preparation are necessities for being
self-sufficient. Involve your family in menu planning, grocery
shopping, and food preparation. Younger children can peel vegetables and
set the table.
Older children and teenagers can cut vegetables, wash rice or blend
pepper and tomatoes. Working as a team puts the meal on the table
faster, as well as makes everyone more responsible and accepting of the
outcome. Improved eating habits come with “ownership” of a meal.
It is time to bring the “family” back to the dinner table. Sharing
dinner together gives everyone a sense of identity. It can help ease
day-to-day conflicts, as well as establish traditions and memories that
can last a lifetime.
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