THIS is what they have used to lure girls to bed against their wish. Guys tell girls they can’t be sure of their love until they open their legs for them. Some silly girls don’t even believe a man loves them until he sleeps with them.
But, the fact is this: Sex does not guarantee love. A man who is genuinely interested in you will love you and pamper you with those beautiful gifts even without getting sex from you. Sex is just something that cements an already established and existing love relationship.
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When you keep giving your body to every man just because he professes love, how many of them are you going to sleep with before settling down with the right partner. It is only a man who is empty that you hook with sex. I have seen men who, no matter your sexual adventures and beauty, they dump you once it’s time to get serious because you are empty upstairs. Develop yourself more intellectually and show femininity. Mind you, I said “femininity” not “feminism”. Femininity is Godly and agrees with nature while feminism is anti-God.
Sex is vital in marriage, but there are more important things he is looking out for in his woman. Stop believing that sex and your body is all you need to have him. If he settles down with you just because of those things, what happens by the time you are 50 and the whole thing begins to drop? What if there is no money or gut to go under the knife?
There are things that make up a real woman:
Godliness: The woman remains the powerhouse of the home. If the woman knows God, her home will be blessed.
Contentment: A real woman will not push her man to steal or defraud people just to make her happy. I believe every woman needs a man with vision who has daily source of income, but never a super-rich dude. Never settle for a jobless man because frustration will set in. Let him get something doing first, no matter how little.
Enterprising spirit/Hard work: A real woman works hard to support her man. She does not just sit at home or drive from place to place with other idle women. She works with her two hands.
Humility: A real woman knows that there is power in humility. This doesn’t mean she does not know who she is; she just wouldn’t see herself as anything without God’s grace.
Good cooking skills: When was the last time you prepared a proper meal for your man? Are you one of those girls who are conversant with every big restaurant in town but cannot go into the kitchen because of their nails? A real woman knows how to cook and feed her husband and children.
Good housekeeping skills: It is when you have children that people get to know how neat you are. Sadly, so many Nigerian ladies cannot take care of the home just because it is so cheap to engage a house-help. What are the things you can comfortably do when the house help is gone? Can you even clean the house and singlehandedly get things properly arranged or you are one of those “pancake ladies”?
Honesty/Integrity: A real woman does not play games with men. She is real and stays far from those who do. A real woman cannot keep two relationships at a time. If you think you are smart by keeping five of them at once, you are the most foolish of all women.
Loving heart: A real woman has a heart full of compassion for the less privileged. How many times have you stopped your man from helping others?
High self-esteem: A real woman does not create time to be going through her man’s phone and email. Doing this only tells us how idle and jobless you are. Get yourself occupied with more important things. A real woman will never confront another woman because of her man. She is confident of herself and worth. Her price is far above rubies and she knows that she is a blessing to any man who has her.
Intelligence-not just academic, but natural/native: She uses her head properly for the right things.
Ability to take care of your body and that of your man: You cannot call yourself a real woman just by applying all the foundation on your face and wearing every good designer perfume. When people look at your man and children, what do they say about you?
Simple etiquette—walking, talking, sitting, dancing and doing everything with some feminine charm: She knows how to carry herself at all times.
Finally, your sex life in marriage: There is what we call depreciation in economics; it is applicable in real life. If you are too much in a haste for sex or involved in it more than you should, chances are that you will lose interest in it at that very point when you need it most. This is why we have very hot girls who become useless in bed once they get married! I have handled a case of a woman who was involved in porn video while in school almost losing her marriage because her husband isn’t getting satisfied in bed. Guys, if you think she is hot now, remember that very word, depreciation. She will reach her peak and then begin to lose it all. Even her body will be lovely at the initial stage but wait until she drops one and you may not stand the sight of her feminine body again.
Sex is not all you need to have a man; there is more to life than just sex. Stop being deceived by what you see and hear from the media; a lot are all lies. We now live in a world controlled by sex.
I think this mass-produced and consumed porn has ruined the healthy and natural sexualities of so many. What happened to sex that wasn’t selfish and fetishistic, one-sided or sadistic, demoralizing or dehumanizing? Sex that was about doing what felt right rather than what feels most wrong? Or dare I say mutual intimacy rather than looking at your partner as just a body that can be manipulated in any number of ways. I think porn happened. I think we really need to wake up, this problem is getting worse by the day.
Women are beginning to see men as powerhouses who must satisfy them in bed even at the expense of their lives. Men, on the other hand, see women as just sex toys and nothing else. Our so-called herbal doctors are coming up with terrible and harmful products for vaginal tightening and penis elongation. We have suddenly moved away from the natural.
Girls now live all kinds of life—smoking and drinking alcohol with different sizes of penis going in and out and at the end of the day, they pick any of those vaginal tighteners and tell the “foolish” man (most men are when it comes to women) that she is such a decent girl.
Even with all the warnings against the use of Spanish Fly, folks still go for it. Women can no longer stay off sex for just six months when their man is out of town (more money for makers of sex toys and more damage to our relationships).
A woman stops getting satisfaction from a man once she starts using and gets addicted to those crazy sex toys and this is one of the reasons we have infidelity on the rise. No matter the man’s level of expertise in bed, they still go back to that toy after it all.
Cervical cancer is on the increase and our women are in no way afraid for their life as the world keeps telling them they need those Spanish fly, vaginal tighteners and vibrators to enjoy it. Men are told they are not real men if the size is small and the length isn’t one hundred meters.
Now my question is this: Is it now all about sex? Can’t we make our relationships beautiful and get bonded with each other in genuine intimacy and enjoy sex God’s own way without going outside the ordinary to be satisfied? Can’t we enjoy each other’s body in all reverence without pushing them too hard?
Guys, don’t let that selfish woman push you to go or that male organ elongation and enlargement because she may not stand by you when the end results show up. Girl, that man telling you to go and enlarge the breasts and bum may abandon you for a younger woman when it’s time for you to cry “had I known”.
If he loves you, let him love your natural body. If she loves you, let her accept every part of you and stop remembering how it was with her ex boyfriend. It’s sad; we use the word “love” more in our generation but the true meaning can’t be seen in our time.
Any love life that is built on sex is bound to crash someday when those organs can no longer satisfy the man or woman. But look at those couples celebrating their 50 years of marriage and they will tell you that something greater than sex brought them together. If it is sex, the woman will go for other men when prostate cancer, impotence, ejaculation problems, or any accident occurs in/around that area. The man will go for another woman when the vaginal muscles are gone and the boobs go flat. If you suddenly find yourself on hospital bed for six months, will he or she still stand by you?
Get into it first for friendship and companionship. Build friendship first and you will see yourself happy the rest of your life.
-Amara Blessing [08116706852 : Email: amara@amarablessing.com]
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