Errm! What men and women think after sex

Many spouses, intending couples and even young adults have asked these questions over and again. ‘I don’t even know what he thinks of me after sex; do you think she believes I am good sexually?’

 The thoughts of men and women after sex are so important to their partners. Spouses want to know the minds of their partners about sex and the knowledge of this goes a long way in framing their overall concept of sex and marriage relationship.

The woman is always conscious of what the husband she had just made love with is thinking. If you are also dying to know what your man thinks after making love to you, you have come to the right place.

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The new groom wonders what to tell his bride after having sex with her; should he pay compliments about her prowess in bed? Should he enumerate all the pros and cons of her love making style? Should he just lay still and wait for her to get up and clean up? Or just sleep off with the thinking that after all, he had the right to till his land anytime he likes.

On the average, a high percentage of first timer men love to say or do something but ego, culture and tradition mostly always hold them back. Oddly, a few men get it right here; they do not just get up and clean up or roll to the other side of the bed and snore off. They lay there still, cuddle the lady in their arms and whisper loving and caressing words to her ear. This act does not only help seal the sexual act, the new bride automatically trusts her man unconditionally. This singular act not only prepares her for a stable relationship, it is an assurance that you will be there when she needs you. It is very important for a woman to know that you are going to be faithful to her, be it emotionally, sexually or physically. When there is a situation like this, you will be dealing with less turbulence in the relationship. The groom has to be thoughtful and kind because women love men who are kind and considerate. No matter how uncomfortable, sitting with her and providing as much comfort as possible when she is crying from the pain of sex or drawing close to you for reassurance will make her love you all the more. If you have not realised already, women are unconditional when it comes to nurturing the ones they love. So, it is only fair to return same gesture as this makes her feel respected as well.

 Every guy would like to believe that he is the one to send shivers down his bride’s spine, and that he is just brilliant in bed. He would like to know how the bride liked it. Of course, the bride should answer; she should not keep quiet and say nothing. He wants to hear things like, ‘You are the best,’ ‘I feel I needed more, that was excellent.’ This fires him up; the spark from these statements is what fuels a man’s love in the relationship.

After many years in marriage relationship, men and women still wonder what their spouses are thinking after sex. Man should take note that sex is not only therapeutic; it is medicinal, relaxing and healthy. The man should make sure that he satisfies his wife so that he is not labelled impotent. After sex, men like to lay back in the night and contemplate not exactly about his wife but all other life issues. At this stage, I always advise men to put their wives in the picture. When she is aware that sexual activities with her can help your life’s productivity, she will perform better and stop thinking you do not care when you sleep off immediately after sex. So when you see your wife always loving to cuddle and get cozy with you, understand her thoughts. Make her feel equal sexually. Women want to feel that they are on the same grounds as their spouses when it comes to having access to sexual demands.

 Several surveys have shown that women expect to see a sexy friend in their partners; they fantasise to be with a man who commiserates with their sexual failures and celebrates their sexual successes. This gesture can be enhanced when husband lends a helping hand without being asked and making her feel sexy by his attitude.

To be continued next week.

- Funmi Akingbade/Punch

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