Do you know how much hugging and cuddling
your partner needs before and after intercourse? How about the sexual
fantasies each partner nurtures? Paying a little extra attention to our
sex life may be all it takes to transform it to an intense experience.
Couples put lots of efforts into their career, friendship and
parenting-they read books and improve on all other areas in their lives.
Well, that is not a bad idea at all. But good sex requires the same
level of learnt information and attention, which means making time for
sex matters a lot.
Hug each other for 20 seconds each day
and flirt with each other. Even when there isn’t time for sex, make sure
your mate knows you want to have one with him or her at any possible
time. Leave a romantic message on your partner’s phone or e-mail.
Daydream about making love to your spouse while doing the laundry,
dishes, and while at work or during your free time and so on. Once in a
while, while getting ready for bed, light a scented candle and play
romantic music on the radio or CD player. This is one of the best
firework stimulants. Anytime the opportunity arises, give your spouse a
one-minute shoulder rub. Go as far as renting a romantic movie and watch
it together after the children might have retired to their rooms. One
of the secrets of sexual firework is that the fervour, closeness and
passion must never be taken for granted because one in three men wishes
their wives were better in bed.
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Be generous outside of the bedroom with
foot rubs, shoulder rubs and loving words. Little signs of affection can
build up and put you both in a mood that you weren‘t necessarily
expecting. Do you bathe together? It is not a bad idea before bed time,
seeing the glistening body of each other is not only sexy; it sparks raw
fire. No harm happens to the marriage union when partners play
together. It helps keep the mind fit, relieves stress and provides
opportunity to work as life partners. It builds camaraderie and spices
things up in the bedroom. Note that while playing together, wives should
remember to put on seductive underwear. Most men like attractive
colours, especially the ones that are seductively designed.
Don‘t forget to break away from the
children‘s grip and everyday life chores by eloping out once or twice a
year; it enables couples to loosen up and focus on themselves once in a
while. Go ahead, become each other‘s baby and share yester-years’
stories. Remember you can‘t sit around waiting for someone to make you
happy, and that goes for sexual happiness too. When there is a raise in
salary, the arrival of a new car or something new and special happens in
the family, you can think up an extraordinary way of celebrating it.
Pay yourselves compliments as women
expect and need compliments as much as men. If he knows that you think
he’s sexy, he’ll try harder in bed to please you and prove that you’ re
right. With one compliment a week, firework flame comes alive.
In all you do as a couple, put sex first
because there is no substitute for sex. Let it top your day-to -day
priority. It’s harder to find time together when the children are either
toddlers or teenagers-they stay up later than you do and most times
know what you are up to. So, sometimes you have to put your relationship
first before the children; that could mean sneaking into the visitor’s
room, the pent house or the master bedroom bathroom to have a short warm
sexual escapade together. And it’s worth it. The fact remains that when
these children are long gone, it is what both of you practise now that
you will continue to do. So, don’t ignore your day-to-day activities
and hide-and-seek-game. If both of you are not sexually naughty now,
you may both bore yourselves to death when they are long gone.
It is of topmost importance to husbands
to know that their wives need them sexually. And these husbands want to
come home to a ‘pure’ outlet. It does not matter if the wife is
pregnant, nursing a baby or has reached menopause. Sensitivity and
compromise must be a watchword here.
As far as a man is concerned, intense
sexual relationship with their wives is more of physical and emotional
tranquiliser; it enables them to relax afterwards. They solve life
issues better subsequently after sex, become calm and relaxed. A
sexually fulfilled man is a better giver, better lover and a better dad.
Therefore, pregnant and nursing wives
should know that the sexual desire of their husbands is basically a
matter of hormonal functions and regulations. It is also ever-present
and they need the physiological release. So, when a wife at any stage of
motherhood maintains an enthusiastic sexual interaction in the marriage
relationship, her husband feels more secured and desirable as he grows
older. Such husbands are better fathers, providers and home makers. In
all you do, put sex first if you want the firework back!!!
- Funmi Akingbade/Punch
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