True love always wants to wait, so true
love does not mind waiting until marriage. It is sad that the present
society we are now has aversion for right things but the truth of the
matter is that virginity is still one of the most precious things you
have to give to your spouse, either as a male or female. Once you lose
it, nothing in the world can bring it back. Many still don’t agree with
me because they are of the opinion it doesn’t matter since they would
soon get married. But we all know that the only thing that cannot change
in life is change itself. So, the possibility always exists that you
may for some reason or reasons decide against marrying the particular
person you have been sexually bonded with. When this happens, you have,
through sexual involvement, given a part of yourself to someone other
than your spouse for life.
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The fact
still remains that if one succumbs to moral enticement before marriage,
nothing may likely stop such fellow from giving in to moral enticement
once married. If couples cannot control themselves before marriage, how
will they be able to do so when married? The more promiscuous an
individual is before marriage, the more likely such individual will be
even when he or she is in a promising marital relationship. There have
been cases of dating partners who are very okay sexually, but find it
hard to find lasting love.
Of course,
in sex saturated culture like ours, waiting till marriage seems
out-dated. Contrary to popular opinion, those who choose to save sex for
marriage are not doomed to a second-class sex life. Rather, research
has shown that such people typically report higher levels of sexual
satisfaction and marital contentment. Early sexual experience has been
linked to marital dissatisfaction, low self-esteem and greater incidence
of divorce. When pre marital sex becomes the reason for the marriage
regardless of other important things, the marriage may lose taste. A
typical marriage worth looking forward to entails good communication,
friendship, playfulness, understanding and lots of sexual escapades.
We
cannot rule out the fact that there will be zero or low risk of
sexually transmitted diseases in a pre- marital relationship; even when
you are married to a sexually inexperienced individual, the one
beautiful joy of such union is that such spouse can learn and get better
with experience in time, since both of you have a life time of learning
together. And learning sexual skill together as married partners is not
only entertaining, amusing and fun but the fact that both of you will
discover new things together, grow together develop healthy and bonding
wholesome sexual intimacy together is very thrilling and fascinating.
In
addition, there will be no risk of unwanted pregnancy. Yes there are
smart ways of preventing pregnancy. There is also high rate of family
planning failure. From researchers, it has been discovered that
premarital sex leads to emotional distress, distrust, regret and
emptiness; even though people involved try to put up a bold face and
pretend nothing happens, yet the emptiness is obvious. That’s because
sex connects two people in body and spirit; it’s impossible to separate
the two. Premarital sex always comes with consequences one way or the
other.
This is a highly controversial
view with different excuses. Yet, there is always a place for smooth
running. You do not need to stay ‘well-informed’ with practical vaginal
sex before you know how to do it better. There are lots of sexual
information without practical that will still give you best information.
A
researcher confirmed that the more people you have sex with does not
make you better informed. He said that if you roll in the sack with five
partners or 10 or 50, it will still not be enough. He further went on
to say that, ‘how many of us really want our spouses should be that well
informed, after rolling in the sack with countless of others?
They
may become better informed about other things they never anticipated
such as venereal diseases. Is it really worth “staying practically
informed?” Many STDs are present without symptoms until the disease is
far advanced. Treatment becomes difficult to diagnose and control.
Rarely does a premarital sexual relationship last long enough to make it
to marriage vows. People engaging in this activity will experience the
heart rending emotional upset that comes with breaking up. And when
people experience multiple breakups, it numbs them to a marriage
commitment of “until death do us part.” They have conditioned themselves
to run, instead of working out the problems that arise within
marriages. Divorce statistics are higher when the couple engaged in
premarital sex or lived together before deciding to marry. So learn
before you leap.
-Funmi Akingbade /Punch
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