It’s been a very hectic and eventful time
planning your dream wedding and everything was perfect from the start
to the finish with so much excitement around; you can only wish for this
moment to go on forever. Suddenly there is nothing to look forward to
and you start to feel lonely, resentful and regretful. Post nuptial
depression is real and two in every 10 brides in Nigeria suffer from
this condition and many more may be ignoring its symptoms with the hope
that it will gradually fade away.
What is PND
This depression occurs especially in
women before or after the wedding. Although it has not been clinically
diagnosed, it does exist and it can affect both the couple as well as
individuals within the marriage. It can start from a small displeasure
and lead to full depression. PND usually occurs in the first year of a
marriage when all the planning anxieties finally disappear and the bride
starts to experience a bad feeling of regrets and uncertainties.
Continue reading after the cut.....
Symptoms of PND
There are several symptoms associated
with PND; sufferers always experience a sense of loneliness, regrets and
sometimes sadness. They often show little or no interest in activities
they once enjoyed and feel aggravated by people around them.
Why PND occurs
Women enjoy the attention and support of their families and friends during the wedding planning period.
The sudden switch from pampering to
responsibilities may become a burden for some who had a different
misconception about marriage; experiencing indecision and second
guessing the commitment they have made may lead to depression.
The bridal obsession can also take a
while to fade away with all the different elements of the day still
lingering around; it can be very emotional for a new bride who still
wants to continue to relive every moment of her big day. Lack of
understanding and support from her husband can make her unhappy and
depressed.
How to avoid PND
Identify the differences between the
planning period and your purpose for the marriage you are about to enter
into right from the beginning and have a clear understanding of the
sacrifices you both have to make towards your marital goals.
Spend wisely and within your budget and
avoid details you cannot afford so that you don’t start your marriage in
debt as debt is one of the major causes of PND in marriage.
Spend quality time doing the things you
love to do and don’t stop being the interesting person you once were
because you are married, engage your mind positively and continue to set
your own goals in your career and in life.
Socialise with friends and colleagues at
work and spend time with your family when you feel the need to, make
time out for people you love as well as your husband.
- Elizabeth Badejo/Punch
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