Does he or she think heavenly about kissing? Does he or she prioritise the act of good kissing and other orally administered forms of arousal? None of these should be underestimated; it’s a tool for communicating great sex to your spouse. Try it. Tell your spouse what you want. Ask what he or she likes. The truth of the matter is if you get to know yourself and your spouse, you’ll have a much more erotic and explosive moments in your sexual relationship.
A lot of wives are very responsive to a man’s voice during lovemaking. If a husband has verbal facility and can entice his wife through his voice, that can become a powerful part of his great sex tools.
Do not paint a distorted picture for another man, ask for something new you can take home if you happen to talk with your friend about sex. When men do talk, they often boast about their sexual prowess. They tend to exaggerate their exploits, painting distorted pictures of their sex lives to one another. A lot of men end up thinking that their sex life is missing something, that other men are having wild sex or more frequent satisfactory sex.
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As much as you may share sexual ideas with others, do not compare your sex life with unhealthy pornographic display. Couples should not try to learn everything about sex from pornography. But a lot may be needful if the erotic films are very educative and informative. Pornography is populated by flawlessly formed women and men with imprinted art work abdomen and ‘out of this world’ endowments. Adult entertainment makes many husbands and wives wonder: why can’t I have a wife like this or why can’t my husband be just like this man? Beside the fact that real people are not always with perfect bodies, one of the most destructive myths of pornography is that it convinces so many couples that they are either frigid or lack good libido, whereas they are just perfect and very okay. They forget that pornography is self-selecting men and women who have been injected with killing artificial libido enhancing drugs. Some of the other fictions that pornography perpetuates are the idea that women are always primed and ready (but you and I know that in the real world, many wives do say ‘no’ to sex most times if not all the time); and pornography portrays that the same moves work on every partner. Same moves do not always work for everyone. One man’s food may be another man’s poison. There is a need to keep studying your spouse regularly. Another thing is that satisfying sex always culminates in orgasm. Many couple have never experienced orgasm and they are doing pretty well sexually. Pornography can inspire us to greater sexual exploration. But learning from it takes time to implement, so there is a need for partners to be patient with each other.
Focusing on pleasurable sensations has over the years helped many couples a lot. These are techniques ranging from eye-gazing to eye-caressing and synchronised breathing that help keep you in the moment and now because great sex happens in the present. It doesn’t happen in the future. This is also applicable to anxiety. When couples fix their mind on anxiety about their performance, they mess things up; if couples can just relax and don’t bother about how well they are going to perform sexually, this will open them up to better sex and they will have great sex all the time.
Lastly, couples are encouraged to make sure they are happy with one another as this helps them to be healthy. When a husband in particular is naturally happy, he gets instant ragging erection and a very hard steaming ejaculation. As the saying goes, the best measure of a man’s character is the company he keeps. But what about his sexual health? According to a recent research, the best measure of a man’s sexual performance is his erection. Good erection equates real man and great sex. A man’s overall health directly affects the quality of his erections. And if the promise of longer life isn’t enough to convince men to take care of themselves, the promise of harder erections might be.
Ironically, a husband’s sexual performance and the quest for great sex is still the greatest hook to get him to make some real healthy good life changes. This is because it has become hard to deny the importance of erections in men’s health. It is now clear that men with heart disease are more likely to develop erectile dysfunction (ED). Men with ED were 80% more likely to develop heart disease than men without ED — regardless of smoking, high blood pressure, diabetes, and weight. Men in their 40s who had ED had the most dramatic increase in heart disease risk. They were more than twice as likely to develop heart disease as men of the same age without ED. Men with moderate-to-severe ED were 65 per cent more likely to develop heart disease over a 10-year period compared with men who didn’t have ED.
If a blockage forms in the heart, it causes a heart attack; in the brain, it causes a stroke. What does that have to do with an erection? To get erect, the penis must become engorged with blood; and for that to happen, the endothelium must relax, allowing the arteries to widen and let blood flow into the penis. Arteries that lead to the penis are smaller than the arteries that lead to the brain or the heart. And most times, these arteries get blocked leading to ED. By definition, having ED means a man cannot get an erection hard enough for penetration or one that lasts long enough for him to reach orgasm. So to have great sex, make sure you are happy, avoid anger, worries anxiety and watch your health.
- Funmi Akingbade/Punch
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